One of the crisis facing our ecology is the density of our species, relative to our ability to act sustainably. It is generally the case that grand-parents behave better to their grand-children than to their children, since pressure and a lack of parental training often result in an unconscious duplication of the family system. Children are also a primary responsibility and must come first, which can be hard when practicing a new conscious culture. At the same time there are millions of children without the psychological and physical safety that is optimal for raising a healthy human being. Before bringing new children into the world, it is valuable to care for the children already here.


  • Establish a sustainable, successful and loving culture as a routine before bringing innocent people into the process.
  • Increase the odds of success by making the culture the first priority by having few or no children initially.
  • Teach potential parents to self-care and integrate their own family and cultural wounds prior to having children.
  • Use the freedom that comes with not having children to provide tours, camps and programs for children that last a day to three months and can expose more children to the well-being approach of the community.
  • Support members of the community to mentor children in the larger community.


  • Avoid forming the community with people with young children.
  • Make child-birth in the community a community decision, rather than just a parent decision, having children when a majority agree it would be good for the child and the community.
  • Delay new births until the infrastructure is in place - perhaps the first seven years of the community.
  • Educate parents on the rich art of loving the inner child and sharing that healing with children as mentors.
  • Work as a community to raise a few children and track the results prior to having more children with a goal of establishing best practices.


  • Do the emotional and trauma work mentioned in other protocols.
  • Create a parenting road-map that includes trauma-release, family beliefs and patterns, addiction healing and a plan for a win/win with child and community.
  • Less than 5% of the population of the community is a child for the first five years.
  • Do a cost-benefit analysis with a goal of providing the most value to the species and vote on a strategy including children.
  • Write about this in-depth so that people joining the community can assess how well this approach fits them prior to joining.
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